There is a commentator that you know very well that should be fired, immediately! Now I hate to see someone loose his job, but in this case, it is critically necessary, because that commentator is ruining your life.
Let me explain.
A commentator is one who discusses news or events. He or she will interpret and analyze events. In other words, a commentator does more than just report the facts. The dictionary definition of a commentator is, “an expert who observes and comments on something.”
How would it make you feel to turn on the television some night and watch a very famous commentator discuss and interpret your personal life in a negative way? Would you just sit, watch or listen to all those detrimental comments? You would probably be outraged.
Yet, that is exactly what millions of people do every day of their lives. And not just at night! They listen to a commentator from the time they get up until the time they fall asleep. And sadly, most of the time they have no objections to what the commentator is saying.
The commentator that I am talking about, who needs to be fired immediately, is the commentator inside of your head. I’m talking about the one who gives you all the negative interpretations about your life; the one who is so quick to analyze your every mistake.
And, this commentator is so slick that those short, but defeating comments, come out in the first person. Comments like, “I just can’t seem to figure this out.” “This never works out right for me.” “I am so stupid.” “That was a dumb thing to say.” “I’m always doing something wrong!” And on and on it goes.
This commentator is so brilliant that he can even predict your future! “I’m never going to get ahead.” “I’ll never get married.” “I probably won’t get that job.” “This is just the way it’s going to be for me.”
In the words of Donald Trump, tell the commentator, “You’re fired!”
This kind of self-talk from the commentator in your head is very defeating. It can ruin your life! You just cannot sit and listen to comments like, “I’m stupid,” and at the same time move forward toward being successful.
By the way, you are not stupid! Even if you have done some stupid things in your life, you’re still not stupid. Everyone has done some stupid things in their lives, so is everyone in the world stupid?
If you continue to allow comments like, “I’ll never get ahead,” to come into your mind unchecked, you will begin to believe it. Once it reaches your belief system, or your core beliefs, then it will continue to influence your thoughts and decisions from a subconscious level.
So, the first thing that you want to do is to fire the commentator. And by that, I simply mean that any time you hear any negative thoughts in your head about yourself, you dismiss them, immediately!
So if, “I’m so stupid,” pops up in your head, immediately counter with, “No, I am not stupid. I may not have made the best choice, but I am not stupid. I am very intelligent.”
Far too many people do not realize just how defeating these negative comments in their minds can be. In fact, there are a lot of people who not only listen to those kinds of comments in their head, but then they turn around and voice them out loud to others! That’s a double reinforcement of defeat. Have you ever heard someone say, “Sorry I’m so stupid”?
So first, stay on guard in your mind. Do not accept any negative comments about yourself, or let them settle in. Instead, kick them out and replace them with positive thoughts. “I am a great person.” “I am headed for success; in fact the Creator designed me for success.”
And secondly, if there is an issue with your core beliefs, then deal with it directly. In other words, if you really believe that you will never get ahead in life, then you need to address that core belief directly.
You will recognize the core beliefs because they always have emotions tied to them. When you say the thought tied to your core belief, you will feel that way too. Be glad that it came up, because now that you know it’s there, you can get rid of it.
Recognize it. Allow yourself to feel that way without judging yourself. Then, say, “I might have felt this way in the past, for reasons that I thought were valid at the time, but I don’t want to feel that way anymore. I choose to let go of this, now! I am putting off this negative feeling about myself, and its place I am putting on who I really want to be.”
As you work this process in your mind, you can replace your current core belief with a new core belief that will serve you well. Most people are waiting for their circumstances to change. The reality is that the circumstances will never change until the thoughts in the heart change. The statement from Proverbs is still true: “As he thinks in his heart, so is he.”
So, fire that commentator today!